Sarah Morgan is a Companion in Starfield who can be romanced and married. This guide explains all steps to build a romantic relationship with Sarah, make her your girlfriend and marry her for the Starcrossed Achievement. The gender of your own character doesn’t matter, none of the Companions care about your gender and it can be changed any time in the “Enhance” shops found in major cities.
Sarah Relationship Guide
Step 1: Get Enough Likes from Sarah and keep talking to Her
- Travel together with Sarah whenever possible.
- Keep getting Likes from Sarah during Dialogues (displayed in top right corner). She likes it when you pick the “Nice” options, don’t sell out for money, and solve encounters diplomatically without violence. It’s highly recommended to make a Quicksave before everyone you talk to. If Sarah gives a Dislike, reload the Quicksave and pick other Dialogues.
- Don’t attack civilians or friendly NPCs.
- Whenever Sarah requests to speak to you always do it and pick the supportive options (usually one of the top two choices).
- Always pick the [FLIRT] / [ROMANCE] / [COMITTMENT] options when they are present. They only show during a few dialogues.
Step 2: Do Sarah’s Relationship Mission, Make her your Girlfriend
- After getting enough Likes and going through enough of Sarah’s dialogues, she will offer Misc Mission “In Memoriam“. Accepting it will change the relationship status to “Sarah Morgan considers you a friend”. It takes around 40 hours of playtime if you keep getting Likes. For me it happened after having reached the end of the story and having finished 3 of 4 Faction Questlines, so pretty much all of the game’s content. If you get a lot of Dislikes you will undo your progress and it will take longer.
- Complete her quest “In Memoriam“. Convince the little girl to come back home with you, Sarah likes that.
- At the end of the mission when talking to Sarah at the Waterfall pick the dialogue “[Romance] I’m saying I love you, Sarah. Now and forever.” (don’t pick the “Friendship” option). This will make her your girlfriend. The relationship status will change to “Sarah Morgan is now your Ally”.
Step 3: Keep Traveling Together until you can Propose Marriage
- Keep Sarah as your active Companion. After 30-90 Minutes playtime, she will want to talk again. Do this and pick the dialogue “[COMMITMENT] I’d like to spend our future together, forever“. She will automatically accept your marriage proposal.
- You can’t get married immediately. Sarah needs some time to prepare. Keep traveling together.
Step 4: Keep Traveling Together until Sarah gives Marriage Quest
- Keep Sarah as your active Companion. After 2-4 hours playtime she will want to talk again. This will start her Marriage Quest “Commitment: Sarah Morgan“.
- Follow the quest objectives, it leads to a beach in Paradiso. There you will officially get married to Sarah. She will give you a Marriage Gift that can be placed in any Outpost.
- Relationship Status changes to “Sarah Morgan consider you a committed partner”. This maximizes the relationship and unlocks the Starcrossed Achievement.
Marriage Perks
There are no “Romance Cutscene” in the game. The only things that change is that your spouse will smile more when she sees you, and will have nicer dialogues. When you sleep in a bed (lodge or ship) Sarah will wake up next to you and gives a verbal comment on how much fun she had with you last night. You can sleep in bed a few times to hear all her responses, but there are no sexy cutscenes.
Your Spouse will also pick up items more frequently and hand them to you.
You can end the marriage at any time by talking to Sarah, discuss the relationship and choose to end the Commitment. Then you can still pursue a relationship with another Companion.
Other Romances:
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thank you for the quick guide, bookmarked!
Will stealing lower Sarah’s affinity? She comments about it, but I don’t see anything pop up about it lowering.
As long as she doesn’t give a dislike or stops following you it should be fine.
Just don’t shoot at any UC Vanguard ships/people, that will make her stop following you.
Any issues with factions? Around 2/3 through the story and I want to make sure that I don’t mess up my relationship with her by – say – doing the Crimson Fleet questline?
Doesn’t matter how Faction questlines play out.
If the result is something your companions don’t like, when they request to talk to you they will voice their disagreement with your decision, but you can still score a “like” if you pick the remorseful dialogues like “I’m sorry, I didn’t consider the consequences”. Sarah hated all my faction questline endings during the talk with her afterward, but I still got likes for it by picking the “I’m sorry” dialogues with her. And I was still able to romance/marry her. So definitely doesn’t matter as long as you are careful to avoid dislikes during the dialogue with her after the faction questline.
A couple of notes on this.
(1) I’m not sure if the Day 1 patch made this quicker for me than for PowerPyx, but following your advise I am already waiting for Step 4 at my “point of no return save” ~22 hours in (Level 26). I haven’t touched ANY of the faction quests, either, and have been pretty main story focused thus far. I was around ~18 hours (Level 22) in when I got her to like me enough to trigger “In Memoriam”. More on that quest below…
Someone I have on Twitter/X also said they got it in around 20 hours. As long as you have Sarah with you constantly and follow PowerPyx’s advise, 40 hours is conservative as an estimate, it’ll likely be much sooner for you. I also asked her all personal questions (can be done any time), would always immediately speak to her when the option came up (several times) as an activity, and would re-load if I ever got a dislike.
(2) This game is pretty polished for a Bethesda Studios game, but “In Memoriam” (Sarah’s quest in Step 2) is a bug-filled mess as of 6 September, 2023. I strongly, strongly recommend (!!!) you save as soon as you get it, and in a separate slot every 5-10 mins. Be overly cautious. I had to re-load an older save for 3 separate bugs.
There is a myriad of bugs that can affect you. Sometimes Sarah will enter “Individual is Busy” state and not ever get out of it. Sometimes she’ll disappear randomly, and then won’t re-follow you even after assigning you to her ship (which usually debugs this common problem). I also had a weird glitch when in the lodge at the end Sarah would walk away for the conversation, speak to Walter and then he’d just stare at you for eternity. Either way, re-loading one or more times should fix these issues.
I currently cannot progress to the wedding with Sarah. It’s been multiple in game days and IRL hours, but I’ve not received the commitment quest after committing. Do you maybe have a solution?
Just keep traveling together, it can take a few hours playtime (took maybe 3h in my game). Maybe also try sleeping in a bed for a few nights in a row, I hadn’t done that in my game but worth a try in case it speeds it up.
So I became a starborn once already, made the wrong responses and never got to romance anyone. So I went to the Unity again, instead of the responses I made before, I went with going about it like it was my first time gathering the artifacts and basically doing the main story all over again. However there are some differences in the main story this time around, kinda neat seeing some of the different things that can happen. Won’t spoil what happens in one of the universes since it can be different, I am fine with the one I am in. Just married Sarah, again.